Exodos Family Ministries:

  • Faith Families Accountability - Sunday mornings 9 to 10am at First Baptist Church of Holt
  • Womens Connection Group - Tuesday mornings 9 to 11am at First Baptist Church of Holt
  • Exodos Family Support Group -Wednesday evenings 6 to 730pm at First Baptist Church of Holt.
  • Exodos Family Day - Please check the Family Day Tab, located in the navigation section to the left, for times and locations.

Exodos Families: Families in Healing

“I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which He has called you, the riches of His glorious inheritance in the saints, and His incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of His mighty strength, which He exerted in Christ when he raised Him from the dead and seated Him at His right hand in the heavenly realms.” Ephesians 118-20

 

When a man is in bondage to drugs and/or alcohol (or any destructive behavior), the whole family is taken into captivity in many ways. Healthy, happy families are often oppressed by the side effects of a father or son who feels helplessly chained to a cycle of destruction. Wives and children are often cut off from friendship and counsel by attempts to hide their private suffering. Exodos Ministries has a heart for families that want to be free at last. We understand that the whole family has suffered and the whole family needs healing which can only come through Christ Jesus. Exodos Families exists to minister into the lives of the family members of our residents. From intake to graduation, the families are actively involved in the recovery process for themselves, as well as, their husband, son, father or loved one. Through Bible studies, counseling and support group meetings, the focus for each family member is their own personal relationship with Jesus Christ and His sufficiency in all areas of life.

 

More information:

There are 3 main aspects to the Exodos Families ministry. The first aspect is a topical Bible Study covering a variety of subjects including anger and bitterness, Biblical forgiveness, worry and anxiety, the power of words, and a Biblical look at addiction and our sin nature. The Bible study is designed to be completed while the family’s loved one is in the initial months of residential recovery.

The second aspect of Exodos Families is one-on-one Christian counseling with a counselor. Many families live locally and can benefit from face-to-face counseling. However, for families who live far away, phone sessions are an available element to the healing process.

The third aspect of the Exodos Families ministry is our support group dedicated just to families who have a loved one in the program. Meetings are weekly, with a topic for the day and an opportunity for discussion. The entire Exodos Families ministry is designed to address, biblically, the tough issues that individuals face when in relationship with a person bound in life-dominating addictions. Our desire is to come alongside families and encourage their personal growth and freedom in the process of their loved one’s recovery. We draw strength from knowing that while our power is not sufficient to change the lives of the one we love, we and our loved ones have access to the “incomparable great power” that is available to “those who believe” in Christ Jesus. After all, Christ is in the business of bringing new life to those who are ready to die to the old life. He brings “...beauty instead of ashes...gladness instead of mourning and ...a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair.” (Isaiah 61:3)

 

Faith Families

 

The ministry of Faith Families is all about God changing the lives of current Exodos residents and their families, as well as Exodos graduates and their families.

The purpose of Faith Families is to lead families to restoration in their marriage and family relationships which were negatively impacted through the sin of addiction, by teaching the sufficiency of Jesus Christ for salvation, sanctification, and marriage and family reconciliation. Through teachings, seminars, counseling, fellowship, and their local church accountability partners the couple is challenged to experience the “Real Victory” that only comes through Jesus Christ.

Single men In Exodos that do not have ties to any family or friends must covenant to be in a discipleship relationship with another man or men in a local church. The Exodos resident must agree to be accountable to his accountability partner for a period of no less than twelve months.

 

Faith Family Covenants

 

Faith Family covenants are an imperative part of the Exodos Ministries Program. Participation in the Exodos Ministries  program includes the establishment of family covenants with a faithful, committed local church. The covenant consists of a twelve month period of accountability and fellowship with members of a local church body. The Faith Family Covenant is an agreement in the Lord between three parties — Exodos Ministries, the resident and his family and the local church. The covenant is the instrument used to establish goals and objectives that enable the resident, his family and the accountability partners to track the progress made over the period of time that the covenant is in effect. Spiritual, circumstantial, and relational objectives are established so that the individuals have a plan of action in maintaining his/her walk with the Lord in the context of the local church.

 

The Faith Family Covenant (for married men) is designed for married couples and their children to be accountable to other married couples and their families in the church for discipleship and fellowship over a no less than twelve month period. It includes an individual covenant for the resident, and their spouse in addition to combined goals and commitments to improve their marriage and family through growing spiritually as a part of the body of Christ.

 

The Faith Family Covenant (for single men) is designed for single men and any family members who plan to be a part of the residents healing while in the program and after graduation. Any single man entering Exodos with the intention of returning to the family environment he came from must enlist the covenant support of at least one family member to enter the program. The Exodos resident and his voluntary family member must covenant to be accountable to a local family of faith for discipleship and fellowship over a twelve month period. The covenant includes an individual covenant for the resident and supporting family members with goals and commitments to improve their personal spiritual relationship with Christ.

Our desire in the establishment of Faith Family Covenants between residents, their families and the church is to insure that the growth, commitment and discipleship established during the program continues for the graduate and his family as they become an active part of the larger family of faith in the body of Christ.





Wives and family members

 

What can I do?

  1. PRAY – for him, for your kids, for yourself and God’s work.

  2. Stay connected with your LOCAL CHURCH. If you do not have a church family you need one for the accountability, support and discipleship that are necessary to the healing of your family and loved one in this recovery ministry. Exodos will help you get connected to a church in your area that teaches the unadulterated word of God without compromise. AVOID ISOLATION by a genuine commitment to our faith family/mentor program.

  3. Go together to your local church to enlist prayer support and inform the leadership of your church of the situation and your loved one’s plans to enter Exodos Recovery Ministry. (If not together – GO ALONE)

  4. Maintain your REGULAR ROUTINE (as much as possible) regarding job, home, children and church.

  5. Make every effort to REMOVE AND DESTROY alcohol, drugs, porn, etc. from your home

  6. Refrain from engaging in ARGUMENTS. They rarely accomplish anything.

  7. As your family member prepares to enter the Exodos Recovery Ministry LET HIM BE THE ONE to  take the necessary steps to accomplish it. It must be his decision. Don’t do it for him or “check up” on him.

  8. If possible, plan to accompany your family member to Exodos for intake. (We also do an intake with the wives.)

 

What Can A Christian Do?

 

“Inasmuch as you have done it unto the least of these, my brothers, you have done it unto me” Matt. 25:40.

 

The following is a list that you can do in working with a man on our waiting list. We understand that many who are waiting may not desire to be helped during this time. In that case, you will not need to do anything but pray that the Lord bring them to the end of themselves. However, if you encounter a man who asks to be helped while waiting to enter, these guidelines will empower you to influence the life of this man for eternity.

  • Assess the Physical needs. The applicant may have certain health issues (medical/dental) that may need to be taken care of prior to entrance into this recovery ministry. If he has been employed and needs to support his family, he may need to apply for disability while seeking help. You can suggest to him that he explore what the options are. You do not have to take him to these appointments; just make him aware of the resources available. (Taking responsibility for getting himself ready to enter is important.)

  • Begin to assess the spiritual needs. Many applicants may not know the Lord. This presents a great opportunity to lead him and/or his family into a saving knowledge of Christ. Exodos Ministries offers materials about repentance and what it means to be “born again.” the applicant can call us and we will send them to him while waiting. You can then help him answer the questions in the study and perhaps assign any follow-up material you desire.

  • Be alert to certain ‘red flags’ that may indicate manipulation or a ‘con-artist.’

o Someone too good to be true
o Pushiness or demanding
o Rejects any proposed solution or offer of help.

o Circumstances unclear or unable to be confirmed. o Guilt manipulation
o Failure to keep appointments and other obligations o Victim syndrome “everyone else’s fault but theirs.”

  • Begin assembling a group of men to help in ministering to the applicant. People struggling with life- dominating sins usually require a lot of time and attention. It is good if you can get a number of men from the church to help in ministering to the applicant while on the waiting list. Accountability, encouragement and mentor relationships are essential at this time.

  • Be a good steward of your time, money and resources.

o As a rule, do not give money for those who ask
o Verify as much as possible the need of those to whom you give food, shelter, clothing or money.
o As much as possible, spend most of your time and resources helping those who are truly in need and

willing to move forward in life.
o Don’t cast your pearls before swine (Mt. 7:6).

  • Prepare yourself for battle with the true enemy, Satan.

  • Ask God to give you a spirit of wisdom and discernment as to how you deal with an individual.

o Be a good student of human nature (1Thes. 5:14)
o Be a fruit inspector (Matt. 5:16-20).
o Be as gentle as a dove and as wise as a serpent (Matt. 10:16)

Keep in mind that true love is giving a person what they need, not so much what they want.
o The most difficult yet necessary word anyone can hear is “NO.”
o Helping the applicant develop boundaries in his personal life and relationships will be necessary for his

growth.

Encourage yourself that broken people of the world are the very ones Jesus sought to minister to. o You may see a side of humanity that is rarely seen.
o You are the channel of God’s grace to this man.

Measure your success according to biblical standards, not the world’s
o Faithfulness – it’s not ability but availability
o Salt & Light – the less this person uses, the more evil is restrained in the earth. o Lifting up Christ – He’s the reason for the work.
o Seed planting and watering
o Spiritual victories.

 

This list of guidelines is not exhaustive, but it may help give you some practical principles to implement in ministering to one who needs Jesus.





“I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which He has called you, the riches of His glorious inheritance in the saints, and His incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of His mighty strength, which He exerted in Christ when he raised Him from the dead and seated Him at His right hand in the heavenly realms.” Ephesians 118-20

 

When a man is in bondage to drugs and/or alcohol, the whole family is taken into captivity in many ways. Healthy, happy families are often oppressed by the side effects of a father or son who feels helplessly chained to a cycle of destruction. Wives and children are often cut off from friendship and counsel by attempts to hide their private suffering. Exodos Ministries has a heart for families that want to be free at last. We understand that the whole family has suffered and the whole family needs healing which can only come through Christ Jesus. Exodos Families exists to minister into the lives of the family members of our men in recovery. Every step of the way, the families are actively involved in the recovery process for themselves, as well as, their husband, son, father or loved one. Through Bible studies, counseling and support group meetings, the focus for each family member is their own personal relationship with Jesus Christ and His sufficiency in all areas of life.

 

More information:

There are 3 main aspects to the Exodos Families ministry.

     The first aspect is a topical Bible Study covering a variety of subjects including anger and bitterness, Biblical forgiveness, worry and anxiety, the power of words, and a Biblical look at addiction and our sin nature. The Bible study is designed to be completed while the family’s loved one is in the initial months of his stay with us.

     The second aspect of Exodos Families is one-on-one Christian counseling with a counselor. Many families live locally and can benefit from face-to-face counseling. However, for families who live far away, phone sessions are an available element to the healing process.

     The third aspect of the Exodos Families ministry is our support group dedicated just to families who have a loved participating in the Exodos Reccovery Ministry.  Meetings are weekly, with a topic for the day and an opportunity for discussion. The entire Exodos Families ministry is designed to address, biblically, the tough issues that individuals face when in relationship with a person bound in life-dominating addictions. Our desire is to come alongside families and encourage their personal growth and freedom in the process of their loved one’s recovery. We draw strength from knowing that while our power is not sufficient to change the lives of the one we love, we and our loved ones have access to the “incomparable great power” that is available to “those who believe” in Christ Jesus. After all, Christ is in the business of bringing new life to those who are ready to die to the old life. He brings “...beauty instead of ashes...gladness instead of mourning and ...a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair.” (Isaiah 61:3)

 

Faith Families

 

The ministry of Faith Families is all about God changing the lives of current Exodos ministry participants and their families, as well as prior Exodos recovery participants and their families.

The purpose of Faith Families is to lead families to restoration in their marriage and family relationships which were negatively impacted through the sin of addiction, by teaching the sufficiency of Jesus Christ for salvation, sanctification, and marriage and family reconciliation. Through teachings, seminars, counseling, fellowship, and their local church accountability partners the couple is challenged to experience the “Real Victory” that only comes through Jesus Christ.

Single men In Exodos that do not have ties to any family or friends must covenant to be in a discipleship relationship with another man or men in a local church. The Exodos resident must agree to be accountable to his accountability partner for a period of no less than twelve months.

 

Faith Family Covenants

 

Faith Family covenants are an imperative part of the Exodos Recovery Ministries . Participation in the Exodos Recovery Ministry includes the establishment of family covenants with a faithful, committed local church. The covenant consists of a twelve month period of accountability and fellowship with members of a local church body. The Faith Family Covenant is an agreement in the Lord between three parties — Exodos Ministries, the the local church and the ministry participant along his family. The covenant is the instrument used to establish goals and objectives that enable the recovering participant, his family and the accountability partners to track the progress made over the period of time that the covenant is in effect. Spiritual, circumstantial, and relational objectives are established so that the individuals have a plan of action in maintaining his/her walk with the Lord in the context of the local church.

 

The Faith Family Covenant (for married men) is designed for married couples and their children to be accountable to other married couples and their families in the church for discipleship and fellowship over a no less than twelve month period. It includes an individual covenant for the recovering participant, and his spouse in addition to combined goals and commitments to improve their marriage and family through growing spiritually as a part of the body of Christ.

 

The Faith Family Covenant (for single men) is designed for single men and any family members who plan to be a part of the recovering addicts healing while in the recovery ministry and after graduation. Any single man entering Exodos with the intention of returning to the family environment he came from must enlist the covenant support of at least one family member to enter the program. The Exodos recovery participant and his voluntary family member must covenant to be accountable to a local family of faith for discipleship and fellowship over a twelve month period. The covenant includes an individual covenant for the resident and supporting family members with goals and commitments to improve their personal spiritual relationship with Christ.

Our desire in the establishment of Faith Family Covenants between residents, their families and the church is to insure that the growth, commitment and discipleship established during the program continues for the graduate and his family as they become an active part of the larger family of faith in the body of Christ.





Wives and family members

 

What can I do?

  1. PRAY – for him, for your kids, for yourself and God’s work.

  2. Stay connected with your LOCAL CHURCH. If you do not have a church family, you need one for the

    accountability, support and discipleship that are necessary to the healing of your family and loved one in this program. Exodos will help you get connected to a church in your area that teaches the unadulterated word of God without compromise. AVOID ISOLATION by a genuine commitment to our faith family/mentor program.

  3. Go together to your local church to enlist prayer support and inform the leadership of your church of the situation and your loved one’s plans to enter Exodos Ministries Program. (If not together – GO ALONE)

  4. Maintain your REGULAR ROUTINE (as much as possible) regarding job, home, children and church.

  5. Make every effort to REMOVE AND DESTROY alcohol, drugs, porn, etc. from your home

  6. Refrain from engaging in ARGUMENTS. They rarely accomplish anything.

  7. As your family member prepares to enter the Exodos Ministries Program LET HIM BE THE ONE to  take the necessary steps to accomplish it. Don’t do it for him or “check up” on him.

  8. If you currently have an active RESTRAINING ORDER, and are planning to be involved in visitations at Exodos Ministries, investigate the process of getting an AMMENDED RESTRAINING ORDER, so that for the time he is in the program you can participate here on the grounds in our programs. WE DO NOT RECOMMEND DROPPING YOUR RESTRAINING ORDER COMPLETELY AT THIS TIME.

  9. If you are going to need FINANCIAL ASSISTANCE while your husband is in Exodos begin now to notify your church of your needs. Investigate food stamps and other forms of public assistance. Contact your County Human Services Department.

  10. If possible, plan to accompany your family member to Exodos for intake. (We also do an intake with the wives.)

 

What Can A Christian Do?

 

“Inasmuch as you have done it unto the least of these, my brothers, you have done it unto me” Matt. 25:40.

 

The following is a list that you can do in working with a man on our waiting list. We understand that many who are waiting may not desire to be helped during this time. In that case, you will not need to do anything but pray that the Lord bring them to the end of themselves. However, if you encounter a man who asks to be helped while waiting to enter, these guidelines will empower you to influence the life of this man for eternity.

  • Assess the Physical needs. The applicant may have certain health issues (medical/dental) that may need to be taken care of prior to entrance into the program. If he has been employed and needs to support his family, he may need to apply for disability while in the program. You can suggest to him that he explore what the options are. You do not have to take him to these appointments; just make him aware of the resources available. (Taking responsibility for getting himself ready to enter is important.)

  • Begin to assess the spiritual needs. Many applicants may not know the Lord. This presents a great opportunity to lead him and/or his family into a saving knowledge of Christ. Exodos Ministries offers materials about repentance and what it means to be “born again.” the applicant can call us and we will send them to him while waiting. You can then help him answer the questions in the study and perhaps assign any follow-up material you desire.

  • Be alert to certain ‘red flags’ that may indicate manipulation or a ‘con-artist.’

o Someone too good to be true
o Pushiness or demanding
o Rejects any proposed solution or offer of help.

o Circumstances unclear or unable to be confirmed. o Guilt manipulation
o Failure to keep appointments and other obligations o Victim syndrome “everyone else’s fault but theirs.”

  • Begin assembling a group of men to help in ministering to the applicant. People struggling with life- dominating sins usually require a lot of time and attention. It is good if you can get a number of men from the church to help in ministering to the applicant while on the waiting list. Accountability, encouragement and mentor relationships are essential at this time.

  • Be a good steward of your time, money and resources.

o As a rule, do not give money for those who ask
o Verify as much as possible the need of those to whom you give food, shelter, clothing or money.
o As much as possible, spend most of your time and resources helping those who are truly in need and

willing to move forward in life.
o Don’t cast your pearls before swine (Mt. 7:6).

o Don’t foolishly risk yourself or your family. If there are situations where you need to visit the family, it is wise to take someone with you. Alert local law enforcement in cases of domestic violence.

  • Prepare yourself for battle with the true enemy, Satan.

  • Ask God to give you a spirit of wisdom and discernment as to how you deal with an individual.

o Be a good student of human nature (1Thes. 5:14)
o Be a fruit inspector (Matt. 5:16-20).
o Be as gentle as a dove and as wise as a serpent (Matt. 10:16)

Keep in mind that true love is giving a person what they need, not so much what they want.
o The most difficult yet necessary word anyone can hear is “NO.”
o Helping the applicant develop boundaries in his personal life and relationships will be necessary for his

growth.

Encourage yourself that broken people of the world are the very ones Jesus sought to minister to. o You may see a side of humanity that is rarely seen.
o You are the channel of God’s grace to this man.

Measure your success according to biblical standards, not the world’s
o Faithfulness – it’s not ability but availability
o Salt & Light – the less this person uses, the more evil is restrained in the earth. o Lifting up Christ – He’s the reason for the work.
o Seed planting and watering
o Spiritual victories.

 

This list of guidelines is not exhaustive, but it may help give you some practical principles to implement in ministering to one who needs Jesus.